Comments on: Why Can’t Boys Just Figure It Out?

By: Lessie

Lessie — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 05:26:29 +0000

Dude, I’m all about anarchy and orgies ;-D

By: Derek Staffanson

Derek Staffanson — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 15:50:48 +0000

whoops–I meant four words to long.

By: Derek Staffanson

Derek Staffanson — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 06:31:01 +0000

“Provo was a TERRIBLE place to date when I was there”

That statement was four letters too long.

By: Sean

Sean — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 03:49:12 +0000

Chandelle, I far prefer letting a relationship develop instead of dating formally. First dates are awful. Hanging out is so much more fun—and you are much more likely to get to know the other person in that kind of low-pressure setting anyway.

Lessie, if feel for your sister. Provo was a TERRIBLE place to date when I was there, and that’s ignoring the fact that I was expected to date people I wasn’t attracted to. As for yourself, good luck getting back into the dating scene, and I’m sure you’re right—when you’re ready to go out, you’ll be ready to ask someone out, too.

tasithoughts, I absolutely believe it is time for some new relationship rules, maybe ones that aren’t based on outdated gender roles. In fact, I don’t think they should be based on gender roles at all, but on common sense, mutual respect and a sense of personal responsibility.

In other words, I hate traditional marriage and am working in secret with my gay brothers to destroy it and replace it with anarchy and orgies. :D

By: tasithoughts

tasithoughts — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 18:32:02 +0000

Sean, I have a few straight guy friends who would appreciate your article and would lament over all the unsaid rules of dating out there. I am sure, as you wrote, the gals have the same issues. Perhaps it is time to just turn the tables on tradition and write new rules? What do you think?

By: Craig

Craig — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 05:55:22 +0000

Yet another reason I’m so terribly glad that I’m gay.

By: Lessie

Lessie — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 04:03:13 +0000

At this particular point in my life, I’m not really interested in playing games, so I’m with Chandelle on this one. Assuming I decide I want another relationship, I would hope it would stem from a friendship that I was already comfortable with. My little sis is down in Provo and suffering from the kinds of confusion that erinannie faces. I just want to rattle her sometimes. She’s so much better than the games she plays. And yet, what is Provo but one big dating game?
Also, since I’ve left the church and started hanging out with peers, a lot of the games seeme to have disappeared. I don’t worry about signals I may be giving or anything like that. I stay pretty open, flirt a little, discuss serious stuff a little, and just try to be myself. As for asking someone out, not even ready to go there, so I couldn’t say, but I imagine if I do get ready to go there, I won’t have a problem doing it. I’m not the same woman I was the first time I played the dating game.

By: Chandelle

Chandelle — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 16:16:46 +0000

I can’t say I ever had the opportunity to date women, and with men, I can’t say I ever really dated. My best friends were always boys and eventually we’d end up together. The two long-term relationships I had before I met my husband were from best friends who eventually became more than friends. This is pretty much the way to go, in my opinion. With my husband, I was pretty forthright. We both hated dating, so we just didn’t date. We just hung out. We had an awesome friendship and we always split the tab or whomever was in less dire financial straits would cover it. I usually came up with things to do because I knew more about what was going on around town, but we rarely went out, because we’re both homebodies who would rather watch a movie at home with popcorn than go to, of all things, a chamber orchestra concert. (Yuck!) (I mean that with all kindness.) We never worried about impressing each other because we were just friends. When it came to physical intimacy, if I wanted it, I went for it, and same for him. These Rules systems that women follow today are too constipating to allow real connections to form. If you can’t be yourself with the guy, or girl, why bother?

By: Sean

Sean — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 05:56:02 +0000

erinannie, don’t give away all your secrets! You could totally pass for a girl in her twenties. Er, in a good way, of course.

By: erinannie

erinannie — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 05:03:51 +0000

Can’t wait to read the responses! I’m such a loser when it comes to dating. I suppose its pretty obvious to the rest of the world why I am 33 and single!